You know something is very wrong — You’re tired of making excuses for him. He doesn’t get it. He doesn’t get you. Part of you is starting to realize it. He doesn’t want to get you. He doesn’t want to bother with knowing you. Isn’t that his place as your partner/boyfriend? To actually know you? …

What If It’s Cancer? — With his almost bald and new clean-cut good looks, David (*not his real name) returned to work after his rigorous round of chemo and radiation. Wearing a fitted Italian shirt gifted by one of our clients, oddly, his post-cancer appearance implied excellent workout and diet results. I remember thinking, “Wow…

Your attachment to your expectations is what’s keeping you stuck — You lived through the devastation of loving a narcissist. Now you’re out. It’s like standing in front of your recently incinerated home. Except, it’s your life. You have to start over from nothing. You will never live your best life if you skip the forgiveness necessary to release your ex-narc…

From Last Century — I stood paralyzed in the front doorway watching my best friend, Robin, and her parents pack their sedan, preparing to leave for the last time. I felt an icky pushing in my chest. There was a very strict rule in my household about Sunday mornings. DO NOT GO OUTSIDE or…

I Don’t Care How Important You Think You Are — Warning: Pseudo Rant to Follow! I am finished with hearing loud personal conversations in the produce department at Whole Foods! If it’s personal, I don’t want to hear it. It’s your intimate business. If you are practicing being miserable, that’s why you’re so good at it! If you’re conversation includes…

2020 is gone, but its residue is all over us — While we are all drenched in the negative year called 2020, which is bleeding into 2021, it’s possible to extract some profound realizations from this awful collective experience. Here’s to your personal enlightenment and upgraded habits, the gifts of Covidopia: 1. Knowing the Intrinsic Value of Your Time The way you spend your time came into sharp focus…

But that’s why I’m SO tired! I AM doing my best! — Have you ever felt that way? You are doing your best, but so exhausted you can’t possibly do well? Do you find yourself reading one self-improvement article after the other, all saying just keep working as hard as you possibly can? Because Elon Musk works 120 hours per week, you…

If You are Applying it to Your Goals, Reconsider — You’ve done it before. We all have. You’ve said you were going to try to start working out. Try to lose weight. Try to get somewhere. But you didn’t create the fitness habit, except for that first week. You didn’t lose weight, except for the temporary 5 lbs. Why? Because…

I made an assumption in 2018 that almost killed me — I had just closed a real estate deal representing a soon-to-be separated couple, so the wife could have her own home. They depicted their split as amicable. After the post-close complications of the deal, the husband asked me to coffee. This isn’t unusual after closing a deal. …